Being a Childfree Man in Indonesia: Facing Challenges and Social Stigma in Choosing the Freedom Without Children
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This article discusses the childfree phenomenon, which is a person's decision not to have children, from the perspective of men in Indonesia. The study aims to understand the factors that influence their decision not to have children, the challenges they face in dealing with the social stigma associated with being childfree, and the ways they cope with social stigma to maintain their life choices. This study uses a qualitative approach with in-depth interviews with 10 informants who are married and have chosen not to have children. The results show that the factors that influence their decision to be childfree are the desire to pursue a career, have financial freedom, avoid parental responsibilities, and concerns about the uncertain future of children. However, they face strong social stigma associated with their decision, such as being considered selfish, irresponsible, or even abnormal. Informants cope with this stigma in various ways, such as talking openly with family and friends, building a support network with other childfree individuals, and setting boundaries in interactions with the general public. This study shows that the decision to be childfree is not an easy choice in Indonesia, especially for men who are expected to be good and responsible fathers. However, despite facing strong social stigma, they still maintain their life choices and find ways to overcome the challenges they face.
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